So I've been doing a lot of writing lately for this new organization I'm working with—[OULDHH](https://www.ouldhh.org) (Organization of Unique Learners for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing Community). We're pretty informal, just getting started really, but we're gathering resources and information about neurodivergence, accessibility, and education for the Deaf community. **I've been posting new content every Wednesday—sometimes about neurodivergence, sometimes about whatever else I'm geeking out about that week.**
And honestly? Some of these posts hit close to home. Whether you just got a diagnosis for yourself or your child, you’re dealing with school stuff that feels impossible, or you’re just trying to figure out what ADHD or autism or learning disabilities actually mean—I wanted to share what I’ve been working on because I think it might help.
Starting point: You just found out
You Just Found Out You’re Neurodivergent. Here’s What We Want You to Know.
If you or your kid just got diagnosed, start here. It’s short. It’s warm. And it’s basically saying: you’re not broken. You never were. Let’s talk about what comes next.
The stuff nobody tells you
Why “They’re Smart, Just Lazy” Is So Harmful
Ever heard this one? Or maybe you’ve said it? (No judgment—we’ve all been there.) This breaks down why that phrase does so much damage and what’s actually going on when neurodivergent people struggle.
ADHD Isn’t About Attention. It’s About Regulation.
Turns out people with ADHD don’t have trouble paying attention—they have trouble controlling where their attention goes. Big difference. This one explains what’s really happening and why “just focus” doesn’t work.
Autism: Masking is Survival, Not Social Skill
Masking—that thing where you hide who you are to fit in—it’s not about getting better at socializing. It’s about staying safe in a world that treats being different as being wrong. This one’s heavy but important.
When school is the problem
When Education Becomes Trauma: A Guide for Parents and Educators (Part 1)
If you’re watching a kid struggle at school and you need actual strategies right now—not platitudes, but real tools—this is where to go. Ten practical things you can do to help.
When Education Becomes Trauma: Why Our Schools Are Failing Neurodivergent Students (Part 2)
This one’s the bigger picture. The systems-level look at why schools keep harming neurodivergent students, what the data actually says, and what needs to change. If you’re advocating for better support, you’ll want this one.
Part 3 of the Education Trauma series is on the way—stay tuned.
Not sure where to start?
- New diagnosis in the family? “You Just Found Out” + “Why They’re Smart, Just Lazy”
- Figuring out your own neurodivergence? Pick whichever diagnosis post fits—“Autism Masking” or “ADHD Isn’t About Attention”
- School is a mess right now? Go straight to both Educational Trauma posts
- Want the whole picture? Read them in order—they build on each other
And hey, while you’re exploring, check out OULDHH.org itself. We’re still building things out, but there’s already a lot there about learning disabilities, autism, ADHD, and Deaf accessibility. We’re keeping it updated as we learn more and as new issues come up. Think of us as your informal resource hub—we’re just collecting good information in one place so you don’t have to hunt for it.
Look, I know this stuff is a lot. You don’t have to read everything at once. Bookmark what speaks to you. Come back when you’re ready. Share what helps.
The thing is, whether you’re figuring this out for yourself or for someone you love, you deserve real information—not the myths, not the shame, just the truth about how different brains work and what actually helps.
You’re not alone in this.
P.S. Seriously, if something in these posts resonates or if you have questions, hit reply. I actually want to hear from you. And if you know someone who needs this stuff, pass it along. Sometimes the right words show up exactly when you need them.